By Elite Reporter
A close friend, reached out to me a few months ago to talk about an article she was researching and wanted more insight into. The topic was about women and cheating. I think we should also bring it up today. She asked me, “Are women cheating more these days, and if so, why? According a recent study by Buss and Shackelford, about 30 to 60 percent of all married individuals will cheat at some point in their marriage, and this statistic could be on the low side. Knowledge is always power! So here’s the real deal as to why more women than ever before may be cheating on their partners.
Part of the reason is access
Women are in the workplace more than ever before. So they have access to men who might be interesting and available to them. And the Internet and social media has made cheating so much easier to do. Cheating is basically just a click away now.
Society plays a role
We live in a society that romanticizes love. Many of us hold deep seated wishes that love and romance should look and feel like it does in the movies. When love fails to live up to this impossible to achieve image, there’s a feeling on missing out on the real thing. This disappointment combined with a more disposable feeling about the institution of marriage, has certainly contributed to both women and men cheating more. Divorce is a lot easier to get. The mindset (which started in the 70s) is much more focused on personal fulfillment. And if your marriage isn’t making you happy, there is this mindset, that you can always get out and find another partner. We’re also living longer, which can make it more challenging to stay emotionally connected to one’s partner over the decades.
How do men play a role?
I’m not sure that we can blame men for men this, actually tend to be happier statistically than women do. Perhaps men don’t realize women need to be fulfilled emotionally, in order to want to stay married. But men really pay less attention to some of the aspects entailed in this.
Women are entering marriages for the wrong reasons?
“I think there are always going to be women who enter into marriage for the wrong reasons. But I think more than that, no one really knows what love and a successful marriage should look or feel like. It’s a gamble. Says Rogers, Tusingire, a journalist. This lack of knowledge can get some women to adopt the grass is greener on the other sidementality, even if it’s not the case. He adds that “We’re seeing a lot more role reversals nowadays with men staying home and women working.. do you ever see this trend getting to where women are cheating more than men?”
There can be a feeling of resentment which comes up for women who were raised with the idea that men should be the providers. When this doesn’t happen, it can create feelings of anger and cause an emotional disconnect. It can also make it hard for men to feel masculine. Even though this financial dynamic is becoming more and more of a common trend, for some women, this traditional role reversal can be very challenging and create marital unhappiness and discord.
Sex and Family
Sometimes women engage in affairs to keep their families together. They want the exciting sex they’re not getting with their partners on the side, yet they don’t want to dismantle the family unit; which can also work for them in many ways. Women are finding “casual sex” or “emotionless sex” to be meaningless and OK, says roger. This is according to many of my friends I have talked too. Just like men tend to argue when they get caught being physical? The thing in it all is some women like the idea of having sex for sex, but in general women like to feel emotionally connected to the person they make love to.
Women are unhappy with what men have to offer right now?
“I think we don’t know how to be successfully married in many ways. This goes for both men and women, argues Tusingire. “We compare the fantasy of what we think marriage should offer us, to the reality of what marriage is offering us,” says one Agnes Mutuwa one of the ladies who were so open about the subject. “At some level our expectations are very high of the men we choose to marry and it’s easy to get disappointed with our partners. Marriage exists in the real world, and it’s hard enough to be happy in the real world,” she added. She went on to say that “We thus need to look for the right partner, and then learn how to communicate with them. We need to not give up on marriage so easily, and figure out how to make ourselves happy within the context of our lives as well as our marriages. So we cheat.”
Interesting information age
“The possibilities to connect with people readily and covertly expands chances of women cheating,” says Tusingire . The variety of apps that hide, encrypt or delete messages and pictures on our phones makes it simple for a cheat to cover their tracks. But it’s not just technology transforming the landscape. These technological innovations arrived at a time when women were already wanting to reach out, take risks and explore. Women are atlast breaking free from years of suppression and want to explore their different personas. And evidence shows this doesn’t just stop once they have a wedding band on their finger.
Women Want Happiness Just Like Men
Women cheaters cheat for a multiplicity of reasons, just like male cheaters do. They want to feel sexy, youthful, emotionally connected. They want good sex, to be with someone who is not like their partner and or who is like what their partner used to be. They want to feel in love and swept off their feet. Affairs are good at offering this kind of emotional experience. Especially at the beginning.
To crown it all, just like men stress out their points similar to these while cheating, women also have their reasons.
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